I just had a fun day with a friend
today. We had a nice dinner in a nearby mall, and had some updates on
our latest activities. As we progress on our tete-a-tete, we were able
to tackle on a sensitive issue about this married "suitor" (that in the
first, place she does'nt like) that is following her lately.
Ironically, we were making funny adlibs while talking seriously about
the issue hehehe. Well, thats the way of the friends when sharing
stories. Anyway, One good thing is, she knows how to handle the
situation.And I am so proud of her.
People
often has the tendency of forgetting their vows when they got married.
This conforms to both man and woman. Though in human norms, male
deviants are a bit acceptable than female rule breakers. In God's eyes, it is just
the same. They vowed before God to forever love each other for
whatever it may take and all are not allowed to break the promise.
It is so nice to hear that couples (legal couples, I mean) can together appreciate beautiful love songs like this one:
So, how can we a man and a wife keep their love as strong as ever? So, as advised by relationship counsellors here are those.
1. They say that firstly, you have to make your marriage your priority. Correction on this part: Always GOD first. We cannot do anything without HIS help.
Make
a decision with your spouse to sit down and review this list of
practical ideas for making your marriage great. Add anything that you
think will work for you both that I have omitted.
2. Keep in touch.
Check
in on each other during the day. Even it you happen to work in the
same building, it is always nice to get a text or email saying 'You are still as beautiful as ever,' or 'You still give me butterflies.' Sometimes it is nice to know that your wife or husband is thinking about you.
3. Do the unexpected.
Surprise
your spouse with flowers, a gift, or a night out on the town with no
alternative agenda and expecting nothing in return. Planning something
special is an excellent way to infuse romance into your relationship.
Sometimes even the smallest surprises can feel like the biggest.
4. Talk about your personal goals.
Sit
down together and talk about what you want out of life, what you want
to achieve as a couple and personally. Write these down. Review them
and modify them every few months. This makes you aware of what your
spouse wants and their goals.
5. Develop and nurture friendships.
Have
friendships outside of each other. Do not become an exclusive couple
that never do anything with anyone else! We all need friendships to
develop and grow us.
6. Do not criticise.
Do
not put down or criticise your spouse in front of other people.
Instead, decide that you will both commit to build up and support each
other when talking to other people.
7. Keep yourself in good physical shape.
This
may not seem important to you, but I am sure it is important to your
spouse! Keeping yourself healthy not only will decrease the risks of
diabetes and heart problems, but also help to keep the attraction alive
between both of you. You do not have to spend alot on a gym membership,
you can go walking or jogging together each evening.
8. Plan weekend getaways.
At
least once a year plan to go away for a weekend. Team up with another
married couple and they can babysit your children while you are away
and then you can return the favor. It does not have to be an expensive
weekend but it is vital that you get this time alone to spend with each
other.
9. Do not let the sun go down on your anger.
NEVER
go to bed harboring offence or hurt with your spouse that you have not
already discussed. If you were disappointed, hurt or upset with their
behaviour, discuss it. Do not enter into an argument but talk openly
about what it was that bothered you and why.
10. Be quick to forgive and quick to say sorry.
Bitterness
and offence is like cancer. If left alone it gradually keeps growing
and growing until it takes over. Do not let bitterness or offence at
your spouse take over the love you once had. Talk things through. If you
need to seek outside help like counselling, do so.
11. Compliment your spouse.
Take
time to notice everyday things that your spouse does like preparing a
meal, cleaning the house, doing the shopping. This shows your spouse
that you appreciate them and the things that they do and you do not take
for granted the effort they put into it.
12. Be there.
Sometimes
all your spouse needs is someone to be there, not to shout, order or
demand, but to love and support. If they are having a difficult day,
respect that and give them space if needed.
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Breaking
up is not the best results. In break ups, nobody wins but the evil
named satan. Hoping that everybody will be helping themselves to save
their marriages is a wishful thinking. But somehow, I always pray that
some will exert effort to do so.
Just always remember this verse:
Just always remember this verse:
Ephesians 5:24-25 (KJV)
Nice reading, guys. Hope you learned something from this post. Til next blog!
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