Husbands and wives: Keep the LOVE burning

I just had a fun day with a friend today. We had a nice dinner in a nearby mall, and had some updates on our latest activities. As we progress on our tete-a-tete, we were able to tackle on a sensitive issue about this married "suitor" (that in the first, place she does'nt like) that is following her lately. Ironically, we were making funny adlibs while talking seriously about the issue hehehe. Well, thats the way of the friends when sharing stories. Anyway, One good thing is, she knows how to handle the situation.And I am so proud of her.

People often has the tendency of forgetting their vows when they got married. This conforms to both man and woman. Though in human norms, male deviants are a bit acceptable than female rule breakers. In  God's eyes, it is just the same. They vowed before God to forever love each other for whatever it may take and all are not allowed to break the promise.

It is so nice to hear that couples (legal couples, I mean) can together appreciate beautiful love songs like this one:

So, how can we a man and a wife keep their love as strong as ever? So, as advised by relationship counsellors here are those.

1. They say that firstly, you have to make your marriage your priority. Correction on this part: Always GOD first. We cannot do anything without HIS help.

Make a decision with your spouse to sit down and review this list of practical ideas for making your marriage great. Add anything that you think will work for you both that I have omitted.

2. Keep in touch.

Check in on each other during the day. Even it you happen to work in the same building, it is always nice to get a text or email saying 'You are still as beautiful as ever,' or 'You still give me butterflies.' Sometimes it is nice to know that your wife or husband is thinking about you. 

3. Do the unexpected.

Surprise your spouse with flowers, a gift, or a night out on the town with no alternative agenda and expecting nothing in return. Planning something special is an excellent way to infuse romance into your relationship. Sometimes even the smallest surprises can feel like the biggest.

4. Talk about your personal goals.

Sit down together and talk about what you want out of life, what you want to achieve as a couple and personally. Write these down. Review them and modify them every few months. This makes you aware of what your spouse wants and their goals.

5. Develop and nurture friendships.

Have friendships outside of each other. Do not become an exclusive couple that never do anything with anyone else! We all need friendships to develop and grow us.

6. Do not criticise.

Do not put down or criticise your spouse in front of other people. Instead, decide that you will both commit to build up and support each other when talking to other people.

7. Keep yourself in good physical shape. 

This may not seem important to you, but I am sure it is important to your spouse! Keeping yourself healthy not only will decrease the risks of diabetes and heart problems, but also help to keep the attraction alive between both of you. You do not have to spend alot on a gym membership, you can go walking or jogging together each evening.

8. Plan weekend getaways.

At least once a year plan to go away for a weekend. Team up with another married couple and they can babysit your children while you are away and then you can return the favor. It does not have to be an expensive weekend but it is vital that you get this time alone to spend with each other.

9. Do not let the sun go down on your anger.

NEVER go to bed harboring offence or hurt with your spouse that you have not already discussed. If you were disappointed, hurt or upset with their behaviour, discuss it. Do not enter into an argument but talk openly about what it was that bothered you and why.

10. Be quick to forgive and quick to say sorry. 

Bitterness and offence is like cancer. If left alone it gradually keeps growing and growing until it takes over. Do not let bitterness or offence at your spouse take over the love you once had. Talk things through. If you need to seek outside help like counselling, do so.

 

11. Compliment your spouse.

Take time to notice everyday things that your spouse does like preparing a meal, cleaning the house, doing the shopping. This shows your spouse that you appreciate them and the things that they do and you do not take for granted the effort they put into it.

12. Be there.

Sometimes all your spouse needs is someone to be there, not to shout, order or demand, but to love and support. If they are having a difficult day, respect that and give them space if needed.

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Breaking up is not the best results. In break ups, nobody wins but the evil named satan. Hoping that everybody will be helping themselves to save their marriages is a wishful thinking. But somehow, I always pray that some will exert effort to do so.

Just always remember this verse:

Ephesians 5:24-25 (KJV)

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."

Nice reading, guys. Hope you learned something from this post. Til next blog!

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Strangers Again...

 I am getting mellow-dramatic. Yes, you heard it right. This "antipatika" is now turning to be emotional. But this is not my story, luckily.

I was compelled to write this blog entry because I really feel something bad inside me. At one point, I want to speak to some loved-ones indirectly. Its really true that at certain points, people get tired of enduring differences. People get sick of dealing with the same old thing. People forgot that they have promised to God to stay together- through thick and thin; for better or for worse; in sickness and in health- until death do them part. They Did'nt know that God commanded them to do love each other until death separate them because God knows that human emotions is so unstable and at any moment, it may collapse, and then the two become strangers again. Well now, I am telling why He ask couples to love each other always, in whatever circumstance it may be under.

I dont want to dig on what had transpired between them. I just hope and pray that in soonest possible time, everything will fall into places again. With God's help. Sometimes, things shatter because God wanted to remind us that we might be forgetting Him. As part of human instinct, people keeps on worrying on how to earn money for the future to sustain the kids, the daily expenses and everything else. But not this earthly things, there is more beyond.

Thinking of the kids even makes me sad. at surface, we can see them happily playing but we dont know what is inside their hearts. It is foolish to say that having parents living separately is common nowadays. Warning: Listening to impertinent counselors will ruin you. Impertinent counsellors always got impertinent ideas. as such, God ask couples to endure, if someone ask couples to go different ways, that someone is being used by demon because opposing God's will is an idea from satan. Do not be deceived.

Always put God in the center. That is the key. That is the most i can say.

I Peter 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Ephesians 5:24-25 (KJV)

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."

Related links:

Love is lovelier the second time around with God 

A couple does not have the right to separate ways because no one forced them to live together 

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